1. movingpastincest
    movingpastincest October 21, 2012 at 1:37 pm .

    It is crazy how many women seem blind to this. The “it could never happen to me” mentality is damaging. I’m not saying women should live a life of never trusting their husbands, but it wouldn’t hurt to know the signs so that if it is happening it doesn’t get missed.

      CRUISEROO October 21, 2012 at 8:17 pm .

      You are SO right about that. Yes, it’s very hard for a wife and mother to think her husband could be molesting your child and vice versa applies too ie. women can and do molest their sons and even daughters. That last thought makes my stomach turn. One of the ladies in our private Facebook group, SPEAK OUT FROM UNDER, shared her mother’s incest with her. Hard to believe.

      As for something to help us recognize the signs, I believe I came across that somewhere on a blog or otherwise. Will check into it and if I can locate it, will share it in my blog. Thanks for commenting.

      CRUISEROO October 21, 2012 at 8:57 pm .

      Following up on your suggestion about knowing the signs of incest, this link may help:

  2. Patricia Singleton
    Patricia Singleton November 28, 2012 at 5:14 pm .

    Viga, thanks for sharing your story and the links to Patricia McKnight’s video. Tricia is an amazingly courageous survivor of incest at its worst. The physical, emotional and mental abuse that she survived amazes and horrifies me when I read a few pages of her book as I did last night.

    My hope is that as more of us share our stories of abuse and survival, that the awareness that is passed on to others who read our stories will make it impossible for someone to shut their eyes and refuse to see the incest that is happening around them whether it is in their own families or the families of their neighbors and friends.

      CRUISEROO November 28, 2012 at 10:46 pm .

      I think all of us who have chosen or have been able to go public about our own abuse are contributing enormously to expanding awareness. I look at the counter on my blog and see that I’ve had over 4900 visitors in the short time this blog has been active. That tells me a couple of thing:

      1)Victims like us are desperate to learn more or find comfort in knowing there are others like them out there.

      2) Sooner or later, our blogs and books will become a resource for those studying or researching the effects on children of sexual abuse and/or incest

      3) several of us, like you, Patricia and others are getting on the radio or talking circuit.

      For me, this is progress. I won’t live long enough to see the full benefits of doing what I’m doing, but I am so glad I’m doing it if it’s helping others.

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