This is is it! My second self-published memoir, “Learning to Love Myself” is launching in both the real and cyber worlds on Wednesday Oct. 15th, and if you’re wondering if I’m nervous about it, well, yes I am!
I’m nervous for various reasons, the biggest of course, being how will it be received by readers of my first memoir, “No Tears for my Father”, which was recently awarded a Gold Medal in the 2014 Readers Favorite Book Awards. Can this new, but continuing story of my life, grab readers the way the first did? After all, as much as folks were appalled by the topic and what they read of the mental, physical and sexual abuse I endured at the hands of my biological father, people were also curious. It’s the kind of reality so many people don’t want to believe exists, but can’t help being curious about knowing more. The very subject can make it a page turner.
But can the same be said of a simple story of a family growing together in love, while the horrid secret of the mother’s past remains buried for over 40 years of marriage? Here is a writer sharing some intimate, but more often ordinary everyday events in the life of a normal family. Will they identify with the events, the family, and the emotional highs and lows of this ordinary life?
And will former victims come to this book expecting to find a formula, a means of recovery after sexual abuse? If they do, they may not find one applicable to themselves. “Learning to Love Myself” shows me recovering through discovering my strengths, born of the struggles I faced as a teen. These strengths are nurtured and allowed to grow through the help of a husband who gives his wife the ultimate gift: freedom to be herself, the very thing denied to her by her father. If former victims get that part: that we need to get away from our abusers, from the toxic environment we lived in, then we can grow and to a good degree, get over what happened. We never forget but we can indeed move on to productive lives. And that’s what I hope I’ve captured in “Learning to Love Myself”, which is ultimately what we have to do: learn to love ourselves.
I hope readers of the first edition of this book will forgive me for the occasional typos and missing periods that somehow escaped our proof-reading and editing. We did that 4-5 times and still there are errors. So frustrating! I have to take comfort in one buyer’s words: “Who cares? I’m happy to have the first edition, mistakes and all!” How cool is that!
Even though some of the more eager fans already have the book by buying it directly from me before the launch, it will become available on all the major online sites (Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Smashwords, iBooks, Kobo, Scribd) on Oct. 15th, but only as an eBook. The signed, printed copies are available ONLY directly through me via my personal website: VIGA BOLAND. Buyers can also purchase ALL ebook versions directly through my website, and I’d really appreciate them doing that instead of buying from the online outlets like Amazon. Why? Because all those sites take a hefty commission on sales, and also retain 30% of payments for the IRS until I can prove I don’t live in the US and don’t pay US taxes! I’m working on that part, but in the meantime… !
Readers local to Hamilton/Burlington will also be able to buy a hard copy of the book via CHAPTERS ANCASTER and INDIGO BURLINGTON. I will be doing book signings in those shops on October 18th and October 25th. Please see the EVENTS page on my site for times and locations.
Thunder Bay Library has already purchased a copy for their catalogue and Hamilton Public Library is working on adding it to their shelves as well. Unfortunately, it may take some time before folks can borrow it from the Hamilton network. I’ll be following up with all the libraries currently carrying “No Tears for My Father” shortly. It’s now in 7 Ontario Libraries.
Last but not least, if you get CHCH TV, Channel 11 in your area, I will be speaking with Bob Cowan on MORNING LIVE about my new book and what’s happened as a result of the first book, at 9:15 am, the morning of the official launch, Wednesday October 15th. I hope some of you tune in. Make sure you wave and smile at me while you’re watching: I’ll be smiling at you as I try to hide the nerves LOL.
See you at the launch!